In this powerful and reflective episode of We’re Not Stumped, host Mike Bolland welcomes Terry Tucker, author of Four Truths and a Lie, for a deep conversation about mindset, mental toughness, and what it truly means to live a significant life.
Terry shares the philosophy behind his latest book, which challenges common definitions of success rooted in money, status, and material achievement. Instead, he invites listeners to rethink success through the lens of service, responsibility, and impact on others. At the heart of his message is one foundational truth: if you don’t control your mind, it will control you.
Building on lessons from his earlier work, Sustainable Excellence, Terry explains how the four truths in the book—shaped by real-life adversity including cancer and amputation—serve as a framework for resilience. He emphasizes the importance of deliberately stepping outside your comfort zone, embracing discomfort, and taking daily actions that strengthen mental toughness.
Mike and Terry also explore the difference between success and significance, the dangers of tying self-worth to achievement, and why true fulfillment comes from giving rather than acquiring. Through stories, philosophy, and lived experience, Terry offers practical wisdom for anyone navigating hardship or searching for deeper purpose.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
- The core philosophy behind Four Truths and a Lie
- Mental toughness and controlling your mindset
- Success versus significance
- Finding purpose through service to others
- Building resilience through daily discomfort
- Lessons learned through adversity and personal challenge
This episode is a must-listen for anyone questioning traditional ideas of success or looking to build a more meaningful, purpose-driven life.
Terry’s new book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Truths-Lie-Ancient-Purpose/dp/B0FPGTK7TG
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