What is dating really like after limb loss?
In this powerful episode of We’re Not Stumped, host Mike Bolland sits down with Neomi Flores to talk about relationships, confidence, and the realities of dating as an amputee.
Neomi shares her deeply personal journey after losing her leg in 2022—including the emotional recovery, navigating self-confidence, and the challenges of putting herself back out there in the dating world.
This conversation goes beyond surface-level advice. It’s honest, real, and something many people—inside and outside the limb loss community—can relate to.
In this episode, we cover:
• Dating through social media—and why it can be complicated
• When (and how) to disclose limb loss to potential partners
• Overcoming fear after toxic relationships
• Self-confidence, body image, and personal growth
• The emotional journey after amputation
• Why Neomi believes in “don’t just exist—live”
Neomi also shares her goal of becoming a motivational speaker and helping others through hospital visits, advocacy, and even launching a Spanish-language support group for the limb loss community.
💬 Whether you’re navigating relationships, rebuilding confidence, or supporting someone who is—this episode is for you.
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Host Mike Bolland welcomes Whitney Lavender — Miss Wheelchair Tennessee 2026, author, advocate, and host of the Wits Grit podcast — for an inspiring conversation about resilience, purpose, and overcoming unimaginable challenges. After a devastating fall led to a diagnosis of Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS), Whitney faced years of severe pain, countless treatments, and ultimately bilateral leg amputations. Rather than allowing adversity to define her, she rebuilt her life and discovered a new purpose through advocacy, storytelling, and empowering others. Whitney’s story is a powerful reminder that our greatest challenges can sometimes reveal strengths we never knew we had.
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